… or should we rather call it “eavesdropping through the keyhole”. However, what woman would not like to listen to her sweetheart coolly talking with his best buddies? What are they talking about anyway? Is he talking about me? Is it just about dirty topics? The answers to these questions will surprise many women.
“So? Everything alright? How’s it going? “
An estimated 95% of all conversations between men start with these three questions. However, what really rebuts the prevailing belief of many women is the fact that the conversation is NOT about sex or other issues that are seemingly important. No bed stories, no hazardous details about a relationship, and absolutely nothing about the dream body of Steve’s new girlfriend.
The first answer to the three questions is generally short: “All good!”. Only then the topic # 1 is mentioned: And – disappointingly – men talk first of all about work. About a crappy boss. The latest job, what mishaps occurred to a colleague, and, and, and … until they continue to topic # 2.
Technology and machines – From cordless screwdrivers to monster trucks
Still, there’s no word about the ladies. If you surf the WWW to find out what men (especially heterosexual men) are generally talking about, you’ll soon discover that gadgets, technology and heavy machinery are on the very top of the list of topics. Computers, chainsaws, cars and/or the new surround system for the TV … whatever! What for many women would certainly be a boring conversation, is an area the “boys” can talk about for hours.
They will discuss the new models of different car manufacturer, Peter’s new mountain bike, or philosophize about their last shopping spree across the hardware store. And only then they’ll move on to the topics 3 to 5 …
Hobbies, police & politics … seriously?
Incredible, but true. The next topic is … hobbies or travel or something similar. It’s about the latest tennis match, about football or about a visit to a club during their most recent business trip to Frankfurt in Germany. Even here, there is hardly, if any, talk about women, not even to mention the encounter with a hot escort girl. It’s more about the DJ set, the cool sound system and the overpriced drinks.
And then they will talk about the “boys in blue”. Topic # 4: the police. The report in the newspaper about police violence, the traffic ticket or the fact that the police in Dubai has a Bugatti in their vehicle fleet (which takes us back to topic # 2).
Topic # 5 – politics. What is already boring on television, among men may sometimes stir quite heated discussions. If during the conversation, some politician’s “unsexyness” is discussed, maybe the gentlemen will finally touch the topic that really interests them: women.
Personal details are not the main topic …
Men will be men, and basically, they are all pretty similar. Once they finally get to the topic “women”, there will usually be a few macho words. Then they could eventually shortly discuss the boredom of a long-term relationship, which however, and quite honestly, is also somehow comfortable. That in the past they were real stallions, that they would be much richer if their sweetheart would not invest all their money in clothes, and so on. Dirty secrets are certainly also a topic, but by far not as important as many women imagine. The play “Straight white men” by Young Jean Lee, which is on stage in New York, gives a very nice insight into a men’s discussion about # 6.
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